What goes through your mind when you are going about your business and casually notice a cockroach scurry through the room?
How does one react? Do you hesitate? Do you look for a napkin or shoe? Or do you squash it immediately?
When I experience this situation, I usually react almost without thinking to kill the pest. Actions first, questions later, this way I don’t miss the opportunity. (This wasn't always the case, btw. I had to work to build the habit). Next, I look for the source of these pests, such as rotting food in the trash, or left out on the floor or counter. Then, I try to make it difficult for these bugs to exist (by cleaning areas where they feed and/or spraying poison).
Treating the symptoms of any problem only ensures that the guy selling the 'medicine' gets rich. In order to beat the disease, one must strike at the root of the problem.
Let's take a look at living in a house with others (Something GFC residents can relate to). Years ago I began studying the psychology of roommates. Having experienced a wide array of roommates ranging from different cultures, religious backgrounds, and socioeconomic upbringings, I began to observe the common grounds we all share as human beings. For instance, no body enjoys being taken advantage of. No body enjoys being made to feel inferior. No body enjoys being somebody's fool (this includes being lied to).
Fun is fun, but it can cross personal boundary lines. It takes maturity to understand where these invisible 'lines' are drawn, and when to take responsibility for accidentally crossing said 'lines' (Every individual has their own boundaries of where is or isn't acceptable for others to tread).
It is each person's responsibility to live up to the basic expectations detailed in the GFC lease, but it can be simplified...
1. The Golden Rule - Do unto others as you would have done unto yourself.
2. The Silver Rule - Do Not Do unto others as you Do Not want done unto yourself.
“Don't be a spoiled Brat.”
Habits take time to establish. There is some evidence that suggests three weeks of consistent practice of a particular behavior will turn it into a habit. Once something is a habit, it can then become part of your character. Work on building your Character, the GFC is not for entitled Brats… it is a community that supports developing Gentlemanly Character.